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My Top 10 Ways To Relax

I have things I do and places I go that make me feel calm, happy and inspired. I wanted to share them with you…

  1. The gym.  Most of the time it’s hard work getting my bum there because I love getting settled on the sofa under a blanket but I love the feeling once i’m there.  I love running on the treadmill for 3 miles whilst listening to music, like Coldplay Fix You and catching up on vlogs. It’s MY TIME and I feel great after a workout.
  2. My lounge when there’s nobody home, I sit in the same seat on the sofa, with the light beaming though our big window looking out on the neighbourhood. It’s the lightest room in the house and it’s a ‘feel good’ room with my cozy blankets.
  3. My bed in the early evening with my laptop, or a book or the TV on. It reminds me of my teenage years at my parents. I loved hanging out in my bedroom and having my own space.
  4. The beach for me, in the autumn or winter months is amazing and THE time to own a beach hut i think (I don’t but i would love to!) It’s also our dogs favourite place too. Wrapping up and walking and chatting and feeling windswept and tired after, going home to a glass of red and getting into pj’s. The beach will also inspire me to think clearly and feel lucky to live on the South Coast. 
  5. A glass or two of red wine on a weekend afternoon. It’s the best way to relax when there are no plans and let’s face it, with three kids there’s always something going on at the weekend. A day off feels like doing something different and I say, get the radio on and enjoy a couple of glasses of wine relaxing at home.
  6. A small coffee shop, and even better somewhere tucked away in a nice little village with wifi and you know you have at least two hours to enjoy some Dorset cake and a nice, frothy coffee.
  7. Reading a book will always be on my list of faves! I get so excited at the thought of reading a book but picking between a good fiction book and a book that will help me to think, learn and grow isn’t easy. However, no matter what I chose, there’s nothing better than reading a book whilst in a hot bath filled with bubbles.
  8. Reading a magazine is not something I do very often, well apart from my Slimming World magazine that I get every month but I now read magazines on my Readly app – usually a running magazine or OK. It’s the only way I know what is going on in the world. Have you seen this app?
  9. Reading blogs is something i have always loved doing since I started blogging myself in 2005. I love finding out about people and I learn so much! Sometimes it’s nice knowing that there’s other ‘real’ people out there.
  10. Finally, I love making coffee in my kitchen because I have the perfect spot and view whilst the kettle boils. I love looking out of the kitchen window at the squirrels running up and down the trees – see, nature again! It really helps my mind drift.
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Now what I would love to add to my list is a lovely area that I can sit and write at – I have found such a beautiful desk in John Lewis and it would look lovely in front of a window or in my favourite room – the living room! I would also love a single armchair with a book shelf and coffee table – my own little reading corner.

I would love to know how you relax! Make sure you leave me a link to any blog posts you have written about relaxing.

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Day 1 Of My 2018 365 day Journey

As I sit and type this post today, I am gazing out of my dining room window and looking out onto my back garden. It’s still. It’s covered in leaves but I was inspired to write a post because as I sit looking at all the brown and dark greens of the garden I can’t help but feel a little excited at the thought of all the beautiful colours that will start coming through my garden again. With the sound of rustling trees, squeaking guinea pigs (that I must clean out today!)  and a fresh breeze coming through the open window, I’m feeling content knowing that we are going to embark on a new journey, in a new year too. A new year, for me, always comes with a wishlist. I love stepping into a new year and thinking about what could happen over the next 12 months. I’m excited at the thought of growing again this year. I love to learn and I know that a new year will always see me grow that little bit more. A chance to develop in both confidence and knowledge.

My husband agreed to help me get better this year. I’m not visibly sick. This depression and anxiety keeps taking over and I have allowed it to. It makes me a nightmare to live with but luckily I have a very understanding husband and my children don’t know any different. Keeping calm, focused and in control is the best way for me to manage it. My life gets over complicated and busy but that’s because I allow it too. My new word for 2018 is going to be NO (well in most situations). I promised myself that I would take a day off a week, so I can have a date with myself. It’s something I really need. I haven’t done this yet though. This is making me more poorly. I’m just one of those people that can’t cope with the stress of a busy week and I love having my own company to read a book, to write, to run, to walk, to shop, to clean. It’s so good for the soul.

I spent a year chasing after everything I didn’t need to, thinking it would make me better. I neglected something that I have done since 2005; blogging. I have blogged since 2005 and in 2017 I made myself too busy. This just made me worse. I missed blogging. I missed writing. I missed my little space on the internet and the blogging community.

I guess with being a business owner, I need to be more professional and not open up, but that’s just not me. I’m human. I’m honest and loyal and I wear my heart on my sleeve. That’s just me. There’s no point in pretending i’m someone i’m not. I’m ME. I’m passionate about what I do for a living and I’m passionate about having my own company. It has been a dream for so long now, Just like my business, I couldn’t walk away from blogging.

I have set the same promise to myself that I always do, and usually every year it happens. Yep! Weightloss. Every year I do this and feel better and then i’m always ready to add on the pounds over December. It just didn’t happen in 2017. The anxiety took over and I turned to food and wine for comfort. This has always been a ‘thing’ but never as bad as it got in 2017. I’m not an alcoholic by the way but I did end up drinking most evenings and quickly too so I would feel that rush of being care free and the happy Emma. I would justify the calories by running. It doesn’t work like that and do you know what? It added to the anxiety and made me even more miserable!

I was also thinking about how much I love being in my garden and how very little I actually go out there and potter or sit. It’s one of those things that I just don’t have time for but when I do, I feel happy and calm. I’m a sucker for nature I guess. It makes me feel amazing. If you look my business name – Blossom Lane Marketing, you can see what inspired the name!

So there we go, day 1 of 365 days in 2018. It’s time to make me better.

Emma x

 

 

 

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Could I Study Nutrition and Fitness?

A thought came to me today whilst I was working out in the gym (I soooo had to gloat because it’s Saturday!), and it may sound so crazy but I really would love to study nutrition and fitness and then use my knowledge to work with those who suffer depression. For me, the gym, family bike rides, eating well and running plays a huge part in my mental state. It really helps. I would love to know more. I would love to study it and read about it and write about it. I am a people person so I would love to do public speaking on the issue and help people.

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Could this actually happen?

Oh wow I feel emotional just thinking about this. I’m excited. I’m actually experiencing butterflies in my tummy!

I set up a running group on Facebook thinking only a few friends would join but i have over 2.5k members – there’s clearly a market for me.

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I remember when i was so low that I didn’t want to exist and my health visitor asked if i wanted counselling – no way! She asked if I wanted gym membership – I don’t need to work out! She asked if I wanted pills – say whaaaat? However, if there were more people like me talking honestly about feeling so low that you think your kids would be happier without you around then I would say YES TO THE HELP. Gym for sure. C25K for sure. Build a community around you. Build each other up. High five. Fist pump. Try something new. Challenge yourself.

It can be the little things – and honest to god i know.

I’m actually excited about this idea. I would love to get out to schools and tell them how amazing it is to exercise – even if it means getting out with Pokemon Go. That fresh air, the smiles, the giggles, the bonding with those who go out with you. National Trust, the local heath, the local park. get a dog, get a bike, get outside!

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Channel Mum Inspired. Time To Vlog

I posted earlier on my YouTube channel about how I didn’t make it as a Channel Mum this time around. I felt a little gutted because I love Channel Mum vloggers and really wanted to be recognised by them and have the support to grow. I think all the vloggers are ACE. I don’t think I have ever felt like the cool kid in the blogging community, and just wanted to be a part of it.

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I know you have to blog several times a week and comment and network but I don’t get much of a chance. I think it’s all so fast paced for me and I can’t keep up. I do try. I’m forever in survival mode with the kids and house and running and having my own business so I’m trying to be part of the cool community but it’s such hard work. How does everyone do it? I adore the blogging and vlogging community. I work with so many influencers as part of my job and i admire everyone. I’m only gutted i didn’t make it as a Channel Mum but don’t feel negative towards the decision or towards those that did make it. It’s actually a wake up call of how much i wanted to be accepted and how much i wanted the support to grow but i will simply do it from the ‘outside’ and see what happens.

I know too well not to accept defeat – always another chance and always worth trying again because you actually go on a journey and learn along the way.

Have you seen who has been accepted? I have actually discovered some new bloggers which is exciting.

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My kids are keen for me to vlog so let’s do this … and for goodness sake can someone please tell me how to hold my phone to film?!

Well done to those that made it – I’m looking forward to watching you grow 🙂 and to those that didn’t? It’s not the end of the world – just vlog your heart out and see what happens.

Emma x

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Trees … The Perfect Escapism

I’m telling myself off right now for not blogging enough. What the heck is wrong with me. I love blogging, i love reading blogs, i love working with bloggers… and yet there’s a matter where I work in PR and i never work at PR’ing myself, market myself or blog. I’m always feeling so content to be looking after everyone else and thinking that I’m not good enough to market myself. WHO AM I? Why do we do this?

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Oh my days I am so content these days. Three weeks off the Prozac people… i know i could crash any day now and i have had a couple of moments of tears and rocking with a large glass of wine but my husband is always there to help me and after a good nights sleep  i’m okay again. It’s okay right?  It’s probably very normal and nobody likes to admit. I’m too honest for my own good!

So this month so far my beautiful family have moved house, i have a new business partner (more will be revealed next month), i have applied to be a channel mum but although i’m crossing everything i’m pretty sure there is no way i will be picked but as i have learnt in my last year of freelancing – you never know unless you ask!

Oh my days my house, my new area… It’s not a palace by the way, but it’s the fact that the house is finished and there are no unfinished jobs to be done… honest it’s  the best! After being in a house with unfinished DIY, this is utter bliss. There’s carpet. We spent a year with laminate due to getting a puppy! It was cold and a nightmare to wake up to every morning, especially when the sun was shining. You could see everything!  Every time you came home you were greeted with what felt like a dirty house and it drove me bonkers. There’s a really good sized utility room in this house that i would like turned into my office so this will require plaster board, new lights and painting but I’m saving for the man who can!

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I’m really enjoying work these days. Why didn’t i go freelance sooner? The flexible working is great when you have three girls who need you to run them around to all their school clubs, to talk to, to hang out with. I dedicate three days a week to working, and most evenings with the odd weekend mixed in and although i may grumble at times, it’s bloody amazing! I work with parenting brands because i have discovered that that is where my passion belongs. I really enjoy working in the parenting market, and especially working FOR  parents who run their own business. Seriously inspiring and such a rewarding job.

Close to our house we have the heath, a beautiful super huge heath with amazing views. It’s just truly beautiful. Nature really clears my mind. It’s so handy having a dog. It’s less than a 5-minute walk from my house. The sound of the tree’s bustling and the birds tweeting. A good fast paced stomp, a slow walk or a run … it’s all just perfect for clearing the mind, having a good cry and feeling refreshed.

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Since moving house, I made a promise that my well-being would come first. I have taken on a couple of freelancers myself and a business partner and I make sure i make time at least once a week to pop to the garden centre and then spend time in my greenhouse. My Fridays are my CHILL THE HECK OUT DAYS and my Mondays are my food shopping days as i spent the weekend fretting about everything i had to do.

It’s funny because i actually said to Dave that if the sun is shining Sunday for Mother’s Day I would love for him to take the kids out to play and I can pop music on, open all my windows without worrying a kid will fall out and clean and potter. It would be a real treat. Jeez … as i wrote that i realised just how sad i am now, or is it that i’m so content and it’s the little treats in life?

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talkRADIO is launching a brand new radio show, Badass Women’s Hour

I have just read this press release that was emailed over to me and I have to share – sounds exciting!

12 January 2017, London: talkRADIO is launching a brand new radio show, Badass Women’s Hour, which will be broadcast every Saturday night at 8pm starting this Saturday [14 January].

Presented by journalist Harriet Minter and co-hosted by entrepreneurs Natalie Campbell and Emma Sexton, Badass Women’s Hour will feature bold and inspiring women from fashion, music, design & business, reacting to the biggest talking points in a funny and entertaining way.

Harriet Minter is a journalist and broadcaster specialising in women and work. She founded and edited the Guardian’s Women in Leadership section and is now a columnist for the newspaper on women in technology. Natalie Campbell is the co-founder of A Very Good Company (AVGC), a global social innovation agency and Emma Sexton is the founder and creative director of design business Make Your Words Work and also the co-founder of Flock Global, a collaborative network for entrepreneurs.

Minter, Campbell and Sexton said: “We’re all firm friends, and feel it’s important to bring those real conversations that women have over dinner, drinks and in private out into the open in a more honest and badass way. The show will be funny, frank and fearless – just like we are, and we can’t wait to get started.”

Dennie Morris, Managing Editor for talkRADIO, said: “This show is a really exciting development for us and we’re really pleased to have Harriet, Natalie and Emma on board to bring their ideas and contacts to the station. In true talkRADIO style, the show will cover the topics that everyone’s talking about and will be a fantastic listen.”